Sadness can take many forms. It isn’t always about tears, sometimes there are moments of anger and irritation that hide the deeper pain. Sometimes sadness leaves a person feeling empty, like life is meaningless so why get out of bed at all?
One of the most common things I hear from clients who are depressed goes something like this:
“Everything should be good. I have no reason to be sad but I am anyway.”
This sadness can even lead to guilt. As if they don’t deserve to be sad, life isn’t painful enough for them to be sad compared to so many others. Sometimes people feel like they are missing out because everything looks so good on paper. “Why can’t I enjoy this incredible life”?
Depression often has deeper roots to explore than simply what is in front of us at the moment. Like an onion, as you peel away the layers, unresolved trauma and thought patterns can surface when life slows down. It’s almost as if the mind is willing to bury the pain deep to get through crisis but as soon as things get stable again the pain pops back through to the surface to be examined and resolved.
Therapy can be difficult at times as we pull up the moments that are stuck and try to see them in a different light. The good news is that these moments can be transformative and can put to rest the depression that is forcing you to sort through the layers. You do not have to suffer indefinitely, I can help you find yourself again.